The word disease originally was used to refer to lack of ease or comfort rather than how it is used today to describe a sickness or health condition. But perhaps in this context it is apropos to revert back to its original definition where dis-ease literally meant to not be at ease.
Whenever you can, pause and have a look inward to check your inner mental state. How often are you not at ease in your daily life? Are you unconsciously creating conflict between the outer world and your inner world, between your external circumstances at that moment and your thoughts and feelings? Can you feel any tension by being in opposition to this moment, perhaps a slight agitation or annoyance? If you cannot fully be at ease with this moment, with what is, then you are with dis-ease.
It may surprise you when you do take a look inside how often you are with dis-ease. In fact, the vast majority of your day may be consumed with dis-ease. It may be blatantly obvious sometimes, like when standing in line at the DMV, but can often be very subtle too in a nuanced way. When you’re at a dinner party, or at work, or running errands – how often do you feel an inner resistance to what you are doing? Your thoughts and feelings may be internally saying I don’t want to be here, with the mental commentary exacerbating this by telling yourself all types of stories. This constant opposition diminishes the quality and experience of whatever you are doing and robs you of much joy. It is true there are many places and things where it is appropriate to walk away from and we should take action and do so as necessary. But in many cases when walking out is not an option, then having this inner voice with the narrative of I don’t want to be here is not only futile but dysfunctional. I’m not suggesting you have to enjoy all we do in our daily life, this would be futile and unrealistic. But…can you simply allow it, simply let it be without all the mental commentary.
Surrender is the transition from inner resistance to acceptance. It is when you allow your circumstances and let it be. You no longer devalue the present moment and always overvaluing the future. You simply allow whatever situation you are in to be as it is, without agitating over it. When you fully surrender to this moment, regardless of what you are doing or who you are with, you will discover a wonderful inner peace with this acceptance. You are no longer in conflict, in opposition, to the now. You may be at an airport lounge with a three hour delay, your mind is going off on how you’ll never fly this airlines again, staring down the flight crew, complaining to anyone that will listen as you work yourself into a frenzy. it won’t change a thing as your flight will still be delayed three hours. Again, I’m not saying to enjoy the delay, but can you allow it to be and simply surrender to it? All that inner negative energy and mental commentary gets diffused by acceptance.
When you allow this moment to be as it is and accept the flow of life, you will find a wonderful inner peace. Simply by saying YES, you enter the gateway of surrender. You see life working for you, not against you, in a harmonious way. You are no longer swimming upstream but rather going with the current flow now. When you can accept each moment as it is, you can feel a sense of spaciousness within you that is deeply peaceful. With acceptance & surrender, you are no longer with dis-ease.